2) When that doesn't work, usually what's next is water works. I'm talking the not cute kind of crying
3) Take myself to a quiet area and try to calm myself down again
4) Spiral more into the anxiety
5) Tell myself to put my big girl panties on and handle it Olivia Pope style. Remind myself I'm a badass chica and strong and smart and capable of doing hard things.
6) *next obstacle arrives* Crumple into a ball on the floor wishing someone could come fix it for me
That being said, your support system is not your super hero. You are your own superhero.
Self, this is the problem. I am afraid. What if I proceed this way, and I fail? What if I make it worse.
Self, this is your decision to make. You can handle whatever comes next. I give you permission to leap. I love you enough to try. I believe in you.
Talk to your friends and family. Get their ideas. Vent. Then choose the path to solve the problem that feels most comfortable to *you. Follow your instincts and have faith in your decisions.
2) Give yourself permission to fail
Remember that angsty Coldplay lyric we all used to love? "When you try your best but you don't succeed..." Well, that's likely to happen at least once. Maybe twice. The point is, if your first course of action doesn't help matters, don't turn to doubt and blame. You've still got this. Take a moment to feel your feelings, and then move onto Plan B.
3) Remember that it's okay to cry
Or scream. Or throw something. Or get quiet. Or want to be left alone. You are entitled to experience your feelings unapologetically. You are allowed to feel weak and overwhelmed and lost at times and still be a Superhero. Just remember that you are your way back to safety. You are your immunity boost, your relaxing music, and your map.
4) Know that by being self sufficient, you become your most valuable asset
There is a light at the end of tunnel. What challenges you changes you and you will grow from this experience. You will get stronger, tougher, and learn about yourself. You will feel proud and gain a sense of self that nobody can take away. Your self love and self worth will benefit and your problems will seem smaller next time around.